In the period of 'dark night of the soul' there are two questions that preoccupy you: how do I start to feel "normal" again, and: how do I get my twin flame back into my life. The answer to that is the same.
“Your twin flame won't come into your life when that's the goal. The goal has to be your spiritual ascension. And you have to do it all the way for yourself. No hidden agenda. You can't bullshit the universe.”
To understand this post properly, first read: "the scientific approach to twin flames".
How do I get my twin flame back into my life?
This is the question that all people have have who met their twin flame, but you are not going to like the answer.. You can never have your twin flame in your life as long as that is your goal. And when I talk about getting your twin flame into your life, I mean permanently, without the runner chaser stuff.
As you can read in my post 'the scientific approach to twin flames', the reason for meeting your twin flame is your spiritual growth. The point is, you're so in love with the other person that all you can think of is them. You remain focused on the physical person because the mind cannot comprehend that you are the other ALSO. You have to go into your soul, that's where you are exactly the same. In the mind you are opposites, polarized, and you push the other away with your energy!
If nothing changes inside you and you continue to identify with the mind, you can stay endlessly in the runner chaser dynamic with your twin flame. That happens for a reason. This obsession pushes you into your spiritual growth. It forces you to really look at yourself. It is not about the other (physical) person. You are the other too (the same soul), only in a different body. And that physical appearance of the other takes your attention away from yourself. This makes you look outward instead of inward. As soon as you go inward, you will realize that you already are in union, there is your soul, your real twin flame.
You don't have to do anything about the situation with your twin flame. No actions towards the other physical person. You have to go into your soul energy. It is BEING/presence.
What can you do to get your twin flame back?
If you really want to grow spiritually, follow these steps:
- You have to do this process all the way for yourself. Not with the reason to have the other physical person in your life. That person will come into your life as a byproduct of you doing this for yourself (it's a paradox). But as I said, you can't bullshit the universe. Your goal has to be your spiritual growth.
- To really do this properly, you'll have to let go of your twin flame completely. You have to get out of the obsession (the dark night of the soul). You have to get rid of the addictive energy of your twin flame. And that is very difficult. It feels so good with this person because he/she has EXACTLY the same soul vibration!! After all, you are the same soul. In concrete terms, that means: breaking off all contact, getting rid of his/her text messages, deleting the phone number and focusing on your own ascension. This is not the only way, but it is the fastest way to neutralize your dualistic energy and get out of the obsession. And the detoxing is the thing nobody likes to hear, because you desperately want to be contact with your twin flame. But when you choose that, you stay in the runner chaser dynamics.
- But!!! if you do manage to focus on yourself and let go of your physical twin flame, you will notice that the obsession will slowly subside, and that you will get a life again. And suddenly beautiful things come your way. Things you wanted to do differently in your life for a long time, you suddenly start doing them differently. Beautiful synchronicities take place. It seems as if the universe is offering the right things at the right time.
- What can you do if you are no longer have your focus on your twin flame?
Go read spiritual books such as Eckart Tolle, and watch the movie Samahdi (free on youtube). I have watched that documentary countless times and that is where I really started to "understand" what the soul is; the space beyond the dualistic mind. Do mindfulness exercises, meditate, take a closer look at your life, what else do you want? healthier lifestyle? more exercise? Other work? Focus on yourself. meditate. Try to slow down; go into nature, go for a walk. And always focus your attention into the present moment. Again and again. Practice presence!
And after some time you will notice that you think less about your twin flame and that other things come into your life that gives you positive energy again.
Detaching from your physical twin flame is detaching from the mind!!!
You look at your twin flame through duality and therefore you experience separation. But you already are in union, because you are 1 at the level of the soul. That's why you have to do soulstuff. You will only experience union when you are in unity consciousness. The universe always matches your outer/physical reality with the energy that is within you. So when you are in your soul, guess what the universe matches you back.. right! your soul, which is your twin flame!!
And as I wrote in my first post, the soul is non-attachment. By the time you are completely in your soul energy, you are no longer attached to any outcome with your twin flame. That's hard to imagine, isn't it? But it's a good indication for yourself. As long as you are still attached to the outcome, you are still (too much) in the mind.
After a period in which you consistently focus on yourself and practice presence, you notice that it is almost impossible to think about your twin flame. Is there stress again, are you too much in your head? boom, there he is again in your mind. When you really start to realize this at some point, it becomes increasingly easy to return your focus to yourself. This process is not a straight up line, but a zigzag line up. So when you're completely in the mind again, focus on presence! go inside.
The situation with your twin flame is actually nothing more than a training to let go of the mind and focus on the real YOU!
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